I live in the UK; therefore, I’m used to receiving tons of cards for all sorts of weird occasions. Don’t get me wrong, it is a lovely tradition indeed, but I always find myself slightly guilty when I have to throw these away two days later (oh c’mon, don’t judge, it’s not like I’m going to look back at them 20 years later and even remember the occasion!).
What I’d like to talk about today, is my strong belief that a box of chocolates or any other small gift will work much better, if you want to make a lasting impression.
Take a recent example of mine. We moved to our new apartment 4 months ago. The security guard was kind enough to accept a big parcel for us, so I thanked him by giving him a small box of Belgian sweets. Not only does he smile every time we bump into each other since then, but he is also extremely helpful with any questions about the neighbourhood. In short, the most valuable source of information one could possibly have!
So next time you ask someone a favour, don’t rely on simple “Thank you” – it’s selfish and doesn’t really carry much weight these days. At best, they will think of you as a person who owes them one.
A lot of my friendships started by simply being grateful, so just give it a try!