Valentine’s Day is synonymous with over-the-top flower bouquets, heart-shaped chocolates and lush romantic getaways. As a result, over the years I’ve received some seriously ludicrous gifts from boyfriends. They seemed under so much pressure to “impress”, that the whole romance thing was totally forgotten.
I suggest you guys take a step back and think about what every girl is really looking for. I’ll generalise a bit here, but more than anything else we want to feel like you truly care about us. That’s it! It then becomes pretty obvious, that a 100-rose bouquet is not as “caring” as it may seem at first (she doesn’t even have a vase THAT big!) and huge boxes of Cadbury’s chocolates will most likely cause her to overeat and to “feel fat”.
Here are a few simple recommendations that are guaranteed to work. As it’s already Thursday, I’ve picked ideas that you can easily find/organise at short notice.
- Small beauty/make-up gifts
Boys are never really interested in our make-up habits, so receiving something beauty-related from a boyfriend would be a delightful surprise. Aim for a product she can use for your romantic dinner, like a nail varnish, lipstick (classic reds and pinks are fool proof) or a shimmering body cream. The trick here is to go for a premium brand that she wouldn’t normally splash out on like Chanel, Dior or Armani.
- A tiny box of super-premium chocolates
Most girls love sweets, but we are also obsessed with our skin, nutrition and fitness regimes (yes, we contradict ourselves a lot, that’s normal). As a caring boyfriend, you need to be aware of these contradicting passions of ours. I suggest you go to the best chocolatier in your city (in London this would be the ever adventurous Paul A Young ) and select a small box of hand-made truffles. You can reassure her that quality chocolate is actually good for her – there are plenty of scientific studies, see here, in case she asks.
Cost-wise, these will work out the same as any standard mass-market box in your local supermarket.
- Take her to a romantic brunch instead
Restaurants will be full of amorous couples, all pretending to be more in love than everyone else around them. Such Valentine’s dinners are socially awkward (I once witnessed a girl crying in the ladies room because she saw someone else propose, whilst her boyfriend gave her “another bracelet”) and ridiculously expensive. The best solution would be to spend the evening at home, and have a late breakfast with cocktails (posh people call it “champagne brunch”) the next day. Places won’t be busy, so you’ll enjoy each other’s company much more.
Remember, gifts are not about how much you spend – good luck on Saturday and stay tuned!